Earlier, people validating and accepting tailored aspects of my personality used to make me happy. Thus, I indulged in activities I perceived to be perceived likeable by the same people. And just to be shown and admired, I let my environment govern my behaviour. However, later in my life, when I liberated myself from this conviction, I felt much better and lighter. I didn’t feel any pressure to conform to societal norms and was the least prone to anxiety. This new sense of inhibition immensely overshadowed my complying trait and turned me into rather eccentric. As a result, it was hindering me from becoming a better version of myself. Plus, it was letting me be an arrogant person, and hence inconspicuously narcissism was sprouting within me. Besides that, this novel change in my personality wasn’t instant; it gradually happened over a period of time. Damn! I wasn’t able to notice it.
Afterwards, as I myself got affected by my actions (done out of self-love) resulting in countless failures due to my narrowed perception and limited imagined outcomes of the actions, I began to read myself painstakingly. And I identified a change in me, yet the problem with this change was that it didn't appear like a problem to me. In fact, I started to like it, and it became hard for me to take off this new cloak of pride. My being indifferent to people’s opinions and expectations had added a new layer over my personality, and the layer worked as a membrane that shielded me so that people’s negative thoughts couldn’t enter my consciousness. Before this, having been criticised or sneered at, I had used to think a lot and often found myself under heavy burdens until those depressive phases got over.
Detachment from every emotion and desire is liberation.
It was indeed my shallow insight to blame my latest discovered cognizance that helped me be better and lighter. It was all good when I stopped begging for acceptance. However, problems gradually took shape as I stopped paying attention to feedback, suggestions, and criticisms - it was the best time period for me. I was free from every mental chain (status quo) but then two problems arose. (1) I stopped growing and (2) stayed inside my bubble. If I needed to learn, I had to puncture the bubble and let the opinions and judgments of people swim in the ocean of my consciousness.
But now adapting that, I reached the same point where I had started from. Therefore, to avoid this regression, I had to build a technique. Fortunately, I built one by working out with emotions, logic, and actions. I observed - “our actions are somewhat reflections of our emotions and vice versa”. I could introduce the spongy layer of logic betwixt emotions and actions to protect myself from emotional distress. Thus, I placed the layer of logic betwixt them. By doing it, I got much more aware of the relation betwixt my emotions and my actions.
What’s this layer of logic?
First, humans have to understand the singularity of each emotion such as Hate, Anger, Happiness, Sadness, Disgust, and Surprise (Basic Emotions). Second, they should know how to add a layer of logic betwixt an emotional state and a reactive (reaction) state. This layer is to buy time for evoking patterns associated with the emotional state and the event having birthed that said state. Later, humans perhaps distance themselves from the actual cause or event at the given moment. They may do it by shutting off their minds for some time. Let nothingness prevail so as to evoke the right neural pathway. The layer of logic will be an absorber similar to a shock absorber betwixt two train compartments.
Afterwards, as I myself got affected by my actions (done out of self-love) resulting in countless failures due to my narrowed perception and limited imagined outcomes of the actions, I began to read myself painstakingly. And I identified a change in me, yet the problem with this change was that it didn't appear like a problem to me. In fact, I started to like it, and it became hard for me to take off this new cloak of pride. My being indifferent to people’s opinions and expectations had added a new layer over my personality, and the layer worked as a membrane that shielded me so that people’s negative thoughts couldn’t enter my consciousness. Before this, having been criticised or sneered at, I had used to think a lot and often found myself under heavy burdens until those depressive phases got over.
Detachment from every emotion and desire is liberation.
It was indeed my shallow insight to blame my latest discovered cognizance that helped me be better and lighter. It was all good when I stopped begging for acceptance. However, problems gradually took shape as I stopped paying attention to feedback, suggestions, and criticisms - it was the best time period for me. I was free from every mental chain (status quo) but then two problems arose. (1) I stopped growing and (2) stayed inside my bubble. If I needed to learn, I had to puncture the bubble and let the opinions and judgments of people swim in the ocean of my consciousness.
But now adapting that, I reached the same point where I had started from. Therefore, to avoid this regression, I had to build a technique. Fortunately, I built one by working out with emotions, logic, and actions. I observed - “our actions are somewhat reflections of our emotions and vice versa”. I could introduce the spongy layer of logic betwixt emotions and actions to protect myself from emotional distress. Thus, I placed the layer of logic betwixt them. By doing it, I got much more aware of the relation betwixt my emotions and my actions.
What’s this layer of logic?
First, humans have to understand the singularity of each emotion such as Hate, Anger, Happiness, Sadness, Disgust, and Surprise (Basic Emotions). Second, they should know how to add a layer of logic betwixt an emotional state and a reactive (reaction) state. This layer is to buy time for evoking patterns associated with the emotional state and the event having birthed that said state. Later, humans perhaps distance themselves from the actual cause or event at the given moment. They may do it by shutting off their minds for some time. Let nothingness prevail so as to evoke the right neural pathway. The layer of logic will be an absorber similar to a shock absorber betwixt two train compartments.
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